Do you find that you get nervous, anxious or become frozen with fear at the prospect of a particular situation or circumstance? It’s completely normal and shouldn’t be seen as being weak. Here are my tips to help come overcome fears.
1. Prepare and practice
Firstly if something really stresses you out or you can’t face the prospect of doing it, you really should seek to work towards that event. For example, if public speaking is one of your fears and you’re in a job where it is common – the best thing you can do is prepare and practice until you’re proficient at speaking and it’s no longer a concern. Practice makes perfect as they say, but you don’t have to be perfect. You just need to get into a position where you can tell someone in a years time “that i used to really shit my pants giving presentations but now its second nature to me”.
You want to devote as much of your energy as possible to preparation. According to Thrillist.com, SEALs rid fear from their minds by practicing an upcoming mission until they feel naturally confident about it—until that unknown becomes, well, a little more known. They don’t lie to themselves about the risks, they simply put themselves in the best position to handle them, which inspires confidence.
Meditation has a range of benefits, including stabilizing breathing and centering your mind. Someone who practices meditation daily will also have tremendous mind control over their emotions so they are agnostic to external factors. This includes stressful situations that induce fear.
One way to overcoming your anxiety and fears is to imagine yourself 15mins after the successful completion of an event or situation you fear.
The power in this technique is visualizing things ending in a successful way. Things may still not turn out the way you wanted, but you will increase the likelihood of success by doing this type of visualization.
This may sound odd, BUT it works for me. Exercise right before you undertake that task or do the thing that frightens the life out of you. You’ll find that the natural high you get from endorphins after exercising works wonders.
Have you notice how elated and confident you feel after a vigorous workout? Well use that to your advantage. I tend to be not just productive and alert, but much braver after a workout session. It allows me to confidently give presentations, have that difficult conversation and take the steps that were previously holding me back from achieving a goal.
When you exercise, whether that’s weight lifting or cardiovascular you are essentially challenging yourself to overcome an obstacle you have set yourself. And when you conquer it in that session, you feel that you can overcome anything the day throws at you. Schedule that workout class in!
4. Become aware of the fear
Note that the fear we feel when facing a circumstance, event or thing, is not because of what is in front of our eyes at that moment – but because of the internal dialogue we have with ourselves. Essentially, your thoughts are the root cause of your fear and anxiety.
Fear makes you put things off. “I’m really tired. I have other stuff to do. It’s a dumb idea anyway.” These excuses probably sound familiar, don’t they? You’ve probably said this out loud and to yourself. Think about it. Is there any truth to these statements, or are you constructing excuses to avoid potential failure? It’s much easier and less painful to make excuses than it is to put in the long hours and energy it will take to work toward your goal, but excuses and opting out will ultimately leave you feeling unfulfilled.
Recognize when you are using excuses and figure out how to overcome them.
Too tired? Adjust your schedule so you can get a better night’s sleep.
Not enough time? Assess your priorities and find out where you can make time.
And the next time an excuse comes to you, make the decision to not give in to that little voice.
5. Count to 5
Alot of the time we use excuses when we’re in a fear state to avoid carrying out the task or activity. If you’re in a situation where you want to do something but feel uncomfortable, start counting to 5. At the very moment you start counting, start performing the action. Essentially you want to commit and execute the action before you get to 5. That way you’re not overthinking it and backing off.
For example, in the run up to a public speech if you’re ultra nervous, just breath and count to five and start walking towards the stage knowing that you are going to do the speech no matter what.
In another setting, if there is a girl you like – don’t think about it, just start counting to five and start walking towards her with the intention to talk to her. The rest will sort itself out. You want to have taken the action by the time you get to 5. What you are doing is overcoming your fear by taking action. Check out the book Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers which includes dynamic techniques like this to help people face their fears head on.
6. Know the benefit of overcoming a fear
The human spirit requires growth – mental, spiritual and physical growth. In order to achieve growth you need to put yourself in situations you find uncomfortable. This may be in front of a camera, public stage, having an honest and firm conversation, etc.
But when you’re afraid, you tend to stay in one place. What if you make a mistake and fail? You start to believe you can’t progress at all, that you’re incapable of it – the fear holds us back. Change the message you tell yourself. It’s not about achieving something and being perfect every step of the way. No one is ever perfect all the time, so stop striving for that. You have to be comfortable that you don’t know everything and you can’t do everything – and that’s perfectly OK. But you continue anyway – and this is the foundation of a growth mindset.
If you continue on a growth mindset and look back at your achievements over the last 6 months or year, you will notice how far you’ve come along. All because you overcame some long-held fears. And that is progress for sure so give yourself credit.
7. Failure is the best teacher
People worry that they will fail miserably if they attempt the steps to accomplish their goals. But like pain, failure can teach us alot about ourselves. In fact, failure is often a better teacher than success. Once you accept from the onset that failure is an inevitable part of success, you’ll be less afraid of it. Anyway, failure means you tripped up in your journey – it doesn’t mean you’ve quit. You just have to carry on because that trip-up can provide you with valuable learning experiences that will positively impact your future strategies.
The best thinkers, philosophers, business people and sports-people encountered failure on their path to their success. Its what helped them to learn, grow and try an alternate tactic or strategy. The quicker you realize your fear of failure is preventing you from making the decision to accomplish your dreams, the sooner you’ll be able to accept the possibility of failing and move on.
Having fears and feeling anxious is normal. You’re not designed to be fearless, so don’t worry. Feeling fear is healthy and our systems need fear in order to drive forward. But the more time and energy you spend thinking about a fear, the more you manifest it into your life. Try thinking on all the good stuff you want to attract into your life, and it will come.
Know your limitations but also know that nothing can stop you from getting to where you need to go.
One of the problems many people and families face is making ends meet, relying on their next set of wages, and essentially living payslip to payslip.
First some stats…
An analysis, based on an RSA/Populus survey of more than 2,000 workers, found that the vast majority of UK workers don’t have sufficient savings to cope with a financial shock. In fact, the average savings in the UK is around £4k – for people that do actually save.
When it came to savings, 32% of respondents had less than £500 while 41 per cent had under £1,000.
In the US, a September 2018 Fox News survey revealed that 26% of registered voters said they were falling behind (income vs expenses), compared to around half who said they were holding steady and 22% who said they were getting ahead.
In fact, even the fairly moderate to high earners live paycheck to paycheck. One in 10 workers earning $100,000 or more yearly say they live paycheck to paycheck. This graphic by Financial Samurai shows how people making $500k a year can still feel like they’ve saved little in comparison;
So it seems that despite their incomes – many people still feel like they’re trapped in a rat race.
There are a variety of factors as to why most people are living paycheck to paycheck. Some reasons are external, but a lot of the reasons are to do with mindset and financial discipline.
Little financial education
School teaches us a lot of theory, but there tends to be little, if any emphasis on life lessons and financial education in particular. The basics financial principles are not taught in our schools whether it be primary or higher education institutions. This includes budgeting, seeking value, investments, debt and the financial system. So while people get out of school and earn money, they have little knowledge of how to use it properly.
Living beyond your means
Why do people line up for the latest phone while their current phone is working perfectly? The need for instant gratification can be addictive especially when trying to keep up with the Jones’s. If you continuously buy things you can’t afford, it only leads to seeking more ways to fund the habit, i.e. taking out credit cards and loans (more debt) to keep the habit going.
This kind of borrowing is known as ‘bad debt’, because you’re borrowing to buy things that don’t really appreciate or provide any sort of return (as opposed to taking out a sensible mortgage for a buy-to-let investment property which generates rental and capital appreciation in the long run).
Budgeting and allocation
Many people fail to budget and end up spending more than they earn. You should always have a plan of how you will use your monthly salary. This is helped by knowing what your monthly, regular expenses will be, i.e. mortgage, child-care (nursery, etc), car payment, groceries, phone and amount to be saved. This way you can see what residual amount is left over – for ad-hoc expenditure.
Cost of living?
Let’s assess wage growth compared to the change in the cost of items over time. Could this be an important reason for why many people struggle to meet their expenses? Has wage growth been sufficient to counter the annual inflation? (Using ‘CPIH’ which includes housing costs – which is a more realistic measure considering housing makes up a major chunk of expenses)
You can see that wage growth in the UK largely surpasses inflation (which includes house price growth). Therefore, it’s not entirely conclusive that cost of living has been unmanageable – although certain parts of the UK, i.e. London have had surges in house prices over time which translated to higher mortgage costs for many homeowners.
How to break free
Change your mentality
Do.you really need to buy that thing? There’s absolutely nothing wrong with desiring nice things, but when you’re struggling to save (and maybe knee-deep in debt) you really need consider your spending each time you pull out your card.
You should try and cultivate a feeling of abundance in your life. In other words, that you are grateful for what you have and have everything you need to be happy at this present time.
Take these 3 steps:
- Make a list of your regular, monthly expenses;
- Reduce or eliminate any unnecessary expenses, so that your monthly income is greater than your total monthly expenses;
- Whatever is left, save X% and invest Y%
Save X% of your salary for unexpected expenses or to pay off your debts/loans.
The investment portion should come out of your account automatically and straight away, i.e as soon as your wage goes in. That way its not something you can deliberate about.
The investment itself can be in a dividend reinvestment fund that delivers compounding returns. Consider that a 20yr old who saves and invests £50 per week will accumulate £2,600 per year. If he does this until age 65 and averages a 10% annual return (about the S&P 500 average return over the last 80 years), he will have over £2.1m at age 65!
Look for ways to make more money!
With work and commitments, it may seem unattainable. but if you really want something you make time for it. Ideas for extra income include driing an Uber, freelancing and consulting work, sell your stuff and renting your room out in Air BnB.
Another great option is Affiliate Marketing where you can sell other peoples’ products and services online for a commission. It’s a great form of passive income as you don’t to own a product, seek storage space, undertake fulfillment or hire staff. You just need a laptop and an internet connection!
If you like the idea of affiliate marketing and want to explore how it can provide a great side income, click here to learn more.
Freedom is the goal
Living in a paycheck-to-paycheck cycle is not freedom. It’s enslavement. For alot of people, there’s no money at the end of the month and they wonder why.
It does not have to be that way. You can break the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle and have financial freedom. It won’t happen overnight, but you can do it if you start taking steps today. Click here to learn how I started my journey towards self discovery, earning money online and seeking freedom from the 9-to-5.
I wanted to share some familiar excuses for why people don’t take the plunge and start something new. In this case – an online business. I would know as most of these applied to me.
The lack of time to commit to building a business is the most common excuse based on surveys and polls. Time is a precious commodity, and we generally try to fill the free time we do have with enjoyable, rather than productive things. The desire is definitely there among young people but time is often cited as the excuse.
Don’t forget, each day on earth represents a greater portion of our time left to live compared to the previous day. Scary right?
With that in mind, surely you’ll want to spend less time commuting and working unsatisfactory jobs and more time with family, passions and growth?
This is why having an online presence is the best thing you can do considering so much interaction and commerce is done through social media. It is astonishing that with people and networks at our finger tips, we’re not taking advantage as we can and should.
- Make time. if you want something badly enough you’ll find a way.
- No time at this present moment, and too many commitments? Then consider an affiliate business model where you promote and sell other peoples’ products/services for a commission. This requires less time and can help build a solid side income.
“No technical skills”
Three months ago i didn’t know how to build a website or set up email systems, write blogs or create custom graphics. There are so many resources and its so easy these days. Especially when it can be just a case of point and click, and drag and drop interfaces -which means no HTML code learning required!
- Digital Business Lounge (for integrated hosting, website building, email, landing page) – all in one place!
- Outsource all the technical parts to your business using Fiverr.
“Don’t truly believe I can do it”
I am part of a community that consists of all types of people with varying skills and beliefs. From truck drivers through to big shot lawyers. They all have one thing in common – they want to change their life. Whether that’s more money, time, fulfilment. there is an underlying ‘why’, and that’s what you have to discover for yourself.
And yes, they all had initial doubts as I did, but the first step is always the hardest.
- Everyone starts somewhere, but to embark on an entrepreneurial journey, you need to sort out your mindset. Mindset, confidence and being clear on your ‘why’ is discussed on regular ‘WakeUp’ calls within the SFM (Six Figure Mentors) community. Check it out!
- Get inspired and learn from mentors through podcasts, books and motivational videos. I particular love listening to Jay Shetty’s and Satori Prime’s podcasts.
- Daily visualisation practice so that eventually your future successful self becomes ingrained in your sub-conscious.
“I don’t have a product or service to sell”
This is something I struggled with initially. I always loved the idea of an internet business but just didn’t have a product or service. What to do?
- AFFILIATE MARKETING – As mentioned above, affiliate marketing is a great online business model for people who are looking to dip their toes into online marketing and start making money. Affiliate marketing is essentially recommending other peoples’ products and services that are aligned to your content, and that you have used before. SFM is a platform that not only teach you how to become an effective affiliate marketer, but also allow you to earn high-ticket affiliate commissions ranging in the $000s.
- E-COMMERCE – Amazon is the e-commerce platform of choice for millions across the globe. If you don’t have your own product, no problem. It is so easy these days to find wholesalers that produce t-shirts, camera bags, bikes, etc, and have them redesigned and re-branded according to your taste. Additionally, you don’t even need to hold stock in your garage or bedroom. With Amazon drop-shipping, the product can be collected from the wholesaler’s factory and dropped directly to the customer. The SFM teaches individuals this Amazon drop-shipping process- step by step.
- YOU are the product. as you have so much to share that certain people will resonate with you. Give and share what you know/love about a particular topic, area or product and before you know it, you will realise rewards from the value you give your customers and readers/viewers.
“I want to see examples of people like me make it first”
People fear the unknown and that’s entirely natural. Therefore it is completely understandable that whenever starting something new, it helps us to see evidence of success in that area thus giving us something to model on.
Before I started my journey with the SFM, I was intrigued by claims that people like me – in respective jobs earning comfortable salaries, managed to replace their salary with impressive profits from their online business. Conversely, there were also individuals in the SFM community that had nothing like the academic education or training that I had yet were commanding huge respect from their successes.
Click here to read real testimonials from real people, get inspired and change your life!
I wanted to shine some insight into the excuses that most people (yourself included?) say to themselves to avoid starting an online business. And with forecasted online sales of $25 trillion by 2025, surely you’d want to build your internet business and claim a tiny chuck of that??
I’m going to be blunt. This is important, as it will make you self-aware and change your approach in life. But essentially, how you got here…won’t get you there.
What that means is that everything you have done in the past and decisions made to get to this point in your life….will not help you get to where you want to go.
So if you are not satisfied with your finances, your weight, your relationships, career or any aspect of your life – you have to review the approach you have taken so far. You have to review your daily attitude. You have to review your strategies, tactics and plans – if there are any at all, in order to set about changing things. Here are the key shifts required:
Set goals and know your why
When you set a goal, you are acknowledging to your conscious and sub-conscious that where you are, is not where you want to be. As a result, you feel dissatisfied. That’s when you have real power and motivation to achieve the goals, because pressure and tension drive human behavior.
Set goals explicitly, and also be clear why you want them. How will they make you feel? This is important because the purpose of the goal is much stronger than the outcome. The purpose of goals is what they will make of you as a person. Because at the end of your life, what’s important is who you are as a person.
So enjoy the process, and don’t get too hung up on the outcome…it’s more sustainable that way.
Also ask yourself how would you feel and what would it cost you if you didn’t achieve the goals? Tony Robbins suggests setting goals twice a year, review the goals monthly and review your top goals daily.
To get to where you want to be, you need to surround yourself with people who have been through a similar path and have been there and done it. Having a mentor is so important as you need role models and someone to pick you up if you stray. Surround yourself with books, attend courses, and listen to podcasts that are aligned with your goals.
In fact, it has been proven that listening to someone speak through audio, i.e. a recording or podcast, has the same effect as if that person was sitting next to you. You want to immerse yourself into powerful podcasts! Ex-monk Jay Shetty and life-coaches Satori Prime have awesome, inspiring podcasts I highly recommend.
Daily tasks and routine leads to consistency, which leads to momentum.
“When you experience positive momentum, you’ll never want it to stop.” — Dan Sullivan, founder of Strategic Coach
You will notice that successful people keep progressing and conquering goal after goal. They’ve worked hard to develop their momentum and know what it feels like to not have momentum. Being without momentum is rough. It’s how most people live their lives. And without momentum, results are minimal, even with lots of effort.
This is why consistency is key to developing momentum. By putting intentional effort toward a singular goal or vision, and eventually, the compound effect takes over, and you find that your reward is beyond what you expected.
So the key shift you need to make is setting aside time daily to work towards your goal. This time needs to be pre-scheduled and allows for your full focus and determination. Continuous work and practice at anything will eventually allow you to master whatever it is. Author Malcolm Gladwell’s research based on review of successful people, states that 10,000 hours of repetitive effort is required to become an expert at anything.
This is an important shift, because we don’t always allow ourselves to dream. Remember there is no boundary to what is possible. Instead of seeking to earn £100k a year, why not aim for £1m a year. There’s no rule out there or judgement of you that says you’re not allowed to achieve that target. The universe can deliver whatever you want. Instead of setting a time horizon of 2 years, why not achieving it in 6 months?
By thinking big, your brain automatically starts to think about the steps and tactics to take so you are positioned to achieve those big goals. And a huge part of this, is to reconfigure your reticular activating system (RAS) using visualization.
In any case, by setting larger goals you will find that you will surpass your initial, smaller goal at a much swifter pace. Consider that….
When I started my online venture, I realized that I had to make some shifts in my daily habit, take action and and changes my mindset. Some examples include;
- Scheduling time in the morning, afternoon and late evening to work and acquire skills
- Visualization and meditation
- Getting a new laptop
- Buying a camera tripod
- Going beyond my comfort zone
- Using downtime to mastermind and research
- Ensure my fitness goals weren’t being sacrificed.
Remember, where you are in your life at this moment is down to the decisions and choices you made. All it takes is a mindset shift and your path can easily change to one of freedom, choice and fulfillment.
Click here to learn about an Entrepreneurial mindset and valuable online marketing skills to start your own profitable digital business.
AFTER WORKING IN THE CORPORATE FINANCE WORLD for 13 years, I wanted to list out those pain points which has drove me mad and encouraged me to look for an alternative way of working. I’m sure some or all of these will resonate with you!
The Daily Grind
Having to conform to working hours just doesn’t stick with me. You have to arrange your life around the 9am-5pm workday and sometimes longer. Each day feels like groundhog day with your only respite being a vacation or a sick day. Even after that you’re back into the usual grove – or should I say rut!
Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to have a schedule and a certain amount of predictability in your life, but wouldn’t you rather work flexibly, waking up as you choose and during hours that suit you?
No winning with bosses
I’ve had my fair share of bosses during my time! Some are complete assholes, some are smiley but assholes and others are just a drip. I’ve had bosses that say one thing, but then change tack later and expect you to have known what they’re thinking and adapt. You can either speak out and get ear-marked for no progression, or stay silent and suffer.
Don’t get me wrong – I’ve had some wonderful bosses too. Men and women that see your value and let you run with projects, and let you work your own way in your own style. The key is that they trust me and know that i’ll keep them informed of my progress.
But. Wouldn’t you rather be your own boss? Making your own decisions for the direction of your enterprise and not answer to anyone but you?
Don’t see the value in my work
This is a particular pain point for me. I feel that it is very important that your work has an end goal, i.e. to provide value to a client, assist a colleague or to represent the progress your company has made. When I can’t make the connection between my work and how it benefits the business, clients and wider community – then I am very demotivated to perform that piece of work.
Of course there will always be administrative tasks that you can’t avoid, but my gripe is with the core purpose of your job.
An example of this was when I worked an Internal Auditor at a big 4 accountancy firm when I first graduated. We used to produce report after report for banks, investment firms, asset managers concluding on their risks and business controls. However we hardly scratched the surface of their business, and the recommendations we provided were just laughable! I felt so embarrassed during the closing meetings when my seniors were sharing our findings and recommendations with the client.
The way I saw it was that this client has paid the firm thousands for a recommendation that says ‘must sign this document’. I couldn’t see the value we (the accountancy firm) was providing!
This is why it is so important for me to be working on projects that I find fulfilling and will add value. For me, clean water is a problem for many countries around the world. I hope to one day provide a solution or product that can allow people to drink and wash with clean water.
Long ass commute
Another thing that sucks the life out of me is a long commute. Especially on the London tube network! It just eats up alot of time, not to mention rude people with no concept of personal space. I now make sure that when commuting (2 hrs door to door), that I’m making use of that time either by listening to developmental podcasts, jotting my thoughts, reading useful articles.
But there’s so much more to be achieved in those 4 hours. This is another core reason why I’ve sought an online business where I can work from home and avoid that dreaded commute. The commute just takes away time from what is important to me, i.e. family, friends, fitness and my business.
Lack of learning and developing
Working in a traditional economy as I have teaches you many things. What is doesn’t teach you is the skills needed for the digital economy. More and more products and services are marketed and sold on the internet, and there are so many tools and skills that I feel I was missing out on by working as a Auditor/Risk Manager/Trader/Consultant.
With the digital economy surpassing the traditional economy for some sectors, it’s a matter of time before most business will be facilitated online.
AND some of the skills to be learned are;
- Website building
- Video creation
- Developing and servicing leads
- SEO (search engine optimization)
- Social media platforms for business
Having joined the online community – SFM (Six Figure Mentors), I have already developed so many of the above skills and am still learning. I was taken through a step-by-step process to set up my online business and I am excited by the possibilities ahead, one which will include quitting my job for the reasons given above!
And by the way, as an Entrepreneur you learn so much about yourself and your mindset, like how you react to adversity, pressure, what motivates you, etc. Stuff that you wouldn’t identify as an employee.
If you’re also struggling with the mundane corporate world and resonate with my reasons above, I highly recommend that you join me on the path I have taken – by clicking here.
I will gladly introduce you to my mentors who provide a free video series to get you up and running with your own online, profitable business.
It’s an opportunity you CANNOT afford to miss out on.
If you want to achieve your goals, you must become a master at visualization. Only then can you imagine and achieve your goals! This is backed up by science and research. Hear me out…
Reticular Activating System
You see, your brain has a network of neurons that connect the spinal chord with the brain and mediates the consciousness and behaviour. It’s called a Reticular Activating System (RAS). It is essentially a filter system. A system that allows certain information into your brain, and blocks out other information. Who programmed it? WE DID! And also our experiences and people from our past.
If you think you are unloveable, then your RAS will go through the day and point out to you – any evidence that you are unloveable. If you think you are bad at speeches, you probably will be. The RAS will look for information and external factors to confirm this belief to you. Your brain is looking out for it.
It is like a confirmation bias. Just like when you read the news – you notice those news items that agree with your beliefs.
The purpose of the RAS is to not let all information in. If your brain took in everything at equal value, your brain would explode. The RAS protects your brain and only lets in things that we agree with, like or need at that moment in time. For example, the RAS is the reason why we can ignore the sound of the train, or a crowd of people – but instantly snap to attention when someone says your name.
As the RAS seeks information that confirms our beliefs, including limiting beliefs, we basically need to reprogramme our RAS in order to achieve our goals. Because once you reconfigure you RAS, you brain spots opportunity or a pathway that you probably didn’t notice before. And visualization is the key strategy.
If your goal is to lose weight – visualize what your life would like and visualize how you feel when you imagine the picture of you. If your goal is to be successful in your online business, then visualize how your life would change from achieving this goal. I follow these two small steps:
Close your eyes, and spend 30 seconds building a picture of yourself going to the gym, or smiling when looking at your bank statement, or the relief from leaving bad relationships. Pick one aspect of your life and focus on it for 30 seconds. Be sure to concentrate on all the small details.
Consciously feel the emotions you have. This may be feeling grateful, full of confidence, full of energy, happy. Imagine you are watching yourself with those emotions etched on your face. Imagine it, and see it.
By visualizing our goals in the above steps, we are training our brain to have a different filter. Especially if you visualize consistently and intensely. Our brain can’t tell the difference between the bad things that actually happened to you, and the imagined thoughts you are creating by visualizing. Your brain encodes a vision/imagination as a real memory, thus changing your RAS.
The more you visualize things, the greater your confidence as you start acting in the mode of having or nearly achieved that goal. And it only takes 30 seconds a day.
Studies suggest that simply visualizing yourself doing things helps to develop the skills and improves the skills – just as you were actually doing it. Visualization develop skills. The more we visualize, the more we believe it is true, and we sub-consciously just do it. We just grasp the opportunity, we speak up.
Every day for the next 30 days, spend 30 seconds to visualize;
- What it looks like when you achieve your monetary goals
- How does it feel? To see your bank statement, putting a down payment for a house, sacking your boss? It feels great! Savour that feeling!
When you visualize, you are reprogramming your RAS and changing the filter so that it is spotting opportunity, helping you see evidence that you are confident and that you can do this.
My own results from visualization
I have personally used visualization and continue to do every day. My aim is to change my RAS so that I am seeing opportunities and pathways to help achieve the goals I set. In the past, I have used visualization because I wanted a particular job, a girl I liked, investment properties and a higher salaried job. All of these wishes became reality.
Daily, I visualize my ideal day as a result of being successful in my online business. This mindset work is extremely beneficial, but in addition I joined an online community that teaches me to earn while I’m learning digital marketing skills. The information has been valuable, and if you’re someone who is also seeking freedom from the corporate life and wants to start an online business, I encourage you to click on this link and take the same path I am currently on.
Balancing an online venture with external commitments can be a struggle, and you may feel that you are not able to give as much attention to a lot of areas in your life. It’s a balancing act, but managed effectively can be highly rewarding.
When i started out on my journey to create an online business venture, i was full of energy, excitement and optimism about the possibilities and my vision for the future. After all, the reason i went down the path to create an online business was to fulfill my long held dreams.
With a vision in mind, you naturally start thinking about your goals (short, medium, long term), before you direct your focus on the practical strategies to achieve those goals, for example;
- create a mindmap;
- develop a website;
- blogging and creating content;
- follow-up/respond to leads/customers
- meet and network with like minded people
All of the above definitely requires investing in time and money, as well as following through on your tasks/goals to ensure you’re on top of your venture. However your loved ones will want your time, and no doubt you’ll want to spend time with them. I initially struggled to make time for my family during the initial, enthusiastic phase of the online business when I just wanted to continue on full speed ahead. Balancing an online business and external commitments was tricky.
I have a 2 year old son and i was leaving home early for work and coming back late in the evening. In the evening, i would spend half an hour with my son (if that) before putting him to sleep, then eat dinner, do bits and pieces around the house, and then spend time catching up with my wife. As you can imagine i was exhausted to work on my online business as enthusiastic as i was about it!
While working in a Wealth Management firm, it was tricky to do anything towards my online business at work- due to deadlines, meetings, requests from the boss, etc.
So here is what i learned about juggling my business and my family;
Get the support of family members, namely your partner.
Explicitly say to your partner that I will work on my business at such and such time in the morning/evening during the week, and at certain times on the weekend. This creates a level of expectancy and understanding when you are deep into your laptop, and when you might have forgotten to do a certain chore or task.
Having the support of your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend also gives you the assurance that someone has your back and can pick you up if needed.
Use downtime effectively
If you’re serious about the growth of your business, you will probably be thinking about it constantly. Action is also vital, so always make sure that if you’re commuting, cooking, waiting at the clinic, i.e. you have downtime, then can use that time effectively. This may be in the form of learning, i.e. a podcast, a training course, a webinar, reading an article – or it may be a call with a customer or a mentor to seek advice. Technology has enabled us to do so much more from our phones, so my advice would be to make the most of it. For example, as a Six Figures Mentor member there is so much online marketing and mindset training content available, so while driving I will always training playing in the background and continue to feed my intellect.
One of my mottos is ‘Learn, Implement, Teach’, so if you can do any of those 3 during your downtime then you and your business benefits!
Whatever task you do, do it properly
How you treat any area of your life will usually be the same way you treat and manage another area of your life. For example, if you’re a procrastinator at work , then you’re likely to be procrastinating on your chores at home. The same underlying mindset is inherent across your life.
On that basis, even if you’re excited about your new online venture and will give it the focus to make it succeed, then also make sure you apply the same diligence and effort in other aspects of your life. You want a balanced life, and that means focusing on one thing at a time and giving it your all.
In other words, set time aside with your children and spend quality time with them, and don’t dip in and out of emails, or take a call. And when it comes to working on your online business – then give that your full attention.
Health is wealth
Balancing an online business and external commitments requires proper planning and a good physical state. If you’re not eating well, drinking enough water, exercising or getting enough sleep – it will not be sustainable for you to juggle all your tasks, and something will suffer.
Set aside time to exercise daily. Robin Sharma (writer of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari) states that best time to exercise is in the morning as it releases BDNF (brain-derived neurotrophic factor) that repairs brain cells from stress, and increases your metabolic rate to give you energy. So start sweating!
Continue to believe in your online business, and know that you have the innate talent, self-confidence and work ethic to keep plugging away. Every little, every day helps and before you know it – you will look back to a year ago and notice a drastic improvement.
AND if you don’t move ahead, you’ll still be sitting in that same office in 10 years, doing the same thing, making incremental more money per year. And that’s fine, if that’s what you want to do – but since you’re here I very much doubt it.
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Thanks for taking the time to learn how to balance an online venture with external commitments.
What is the Ego?
Your Ego is a part of you, but at the same time it can be separate to you. It is usually on auto-pilot and ticking away as part of your sub-conscious. The sub-conscious is part of your mind that isn’t in current focal awareness. For example, when you’re driving a car, those gear changes and tiny movements of the steering wheel while you’re thinking about something else….that’s your sub-conscious driving the car.
The ego is never satisfied. It’s always seeking more. It is defined as a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance. More material items, more money, better possessions and experiences. As a result, the ego borders on greed especially with its glass half-full attitude. In fact, any negative experiences you go through in life are a contradiction to the ego’s beliefs. For example, if you hurt yourself that’s your ego saying ‘i shouldn’t be in pain’, if you lose money that’s your ego saying ‘i shouldn’t be suffering losses’. When your business suffers your ego says ‘this was not supposed to happen’ – and it becomes easy to revert to your default setting. This is how your ego holds you back from achieving your best.
The majority of humans have their ego running their life and are essentially passengers. It may well be that in some areas of our life we are the passenger, and in other areas we are the drivers. The key is to be the driver in all areas of our life – but you have to look within yourself to achieve change . However, once people decide that change is needed, they don’t follow through. Why? Because the ego is lazy, and it knows that we can survive life in a default setting so why bother changing?
If our goal was to lose weight – you may intend to achieve change by exercising regularly. But no transformation is easy, so at any sign of hardship the ego will question the transformation and urge you to give it up. It uses avoidance tactics and makes excuses! Similarly for mediating. You will set aside 10 minutes every morning upon waking to meditate. However, you find yourself hitting the snooze button on day 1, day 2…and so on. Why? Because your ego is seeking the easy option.
Your desire needs to be stronger than your ego and this takes discipline. Essentially, you need to ask yourself “am i serious and committed to this change?”. Your word needs to be absolute as you don’t want your ego to hold you back.
When you don’t follow through on a practice, you are telling your ego that you’re not committed and are feeding more power to the ego. This applies to pretty much any aspect of your life that you feel isn’t amazing, i.e. relationships, money, health etc.
The key to committing to real change is to remain disciplined and focused on the task/activity/project at hand. In addition, being vulnerable is so important for growth, as it means you are opening yourself up for new insights, constructive feedback, tools and knowledge that you may have not have previously welcomed into your life.
Click below a really useful guide for ways to overcome your ego and ensuring its not holding you back;
As I go through my own journey creating an online business and honing my digital marketing skills, I am aware of my ego taking control and making me procrastinate and lose focus. Luckily the online community I have joined are amazing in making sure I stay on track and am clear on my goals and vision. In fact, there are accountability mentors that ensure you stay on track – ensuring you’re ego doesn’t take over.
If you are interested in learning the same marketing, technical and mindset skills, click here and start your journey to taking control and freedom.
There’s a perception that confidence is something inherent. If you think of people you know that are confident, their actions, verbal skills and timing just seems natural to them – as if they’ve always been that way. They just exude confidence.
But note that confidence is something you acquire as a result of life experiences, i.e. learning from mistakes, assessing and understanding what works well and then implementing those lessons…day in day out.
Here are key building blocks to a more confident you…
Love yourself first
You have to look after yourself first and foremost. This means respecting your body by giving it the right nutrients, rest and exercise. The endorphins from a solid workout session alone give you a great feeling of accomplishment and ‘top of the world’ feeling. Lifestyle guru Tony Robbins said you cant change your mental state unless you alter your physical state and energy. The long term results from more muscle, reduced weight etc are of course a fantastic confidence and self esteem builder.
Eat well. When it comes to looking after yourself, eat at consistent times, have a balanced diet and eat reasonable portions. Have an idea what you should eat for the day and at what times. If you eat oily, greasy and stodgy food you end up feeling lethargic and probably not getting the vitamins and minerals you need.
Once you care for yourself, look after your needs and fill up your cup – only then are you in a position to help and assist others!
Inner confidence comes easier when you know that you look good on you. Dressing well is very important for first impressions, how people see you and indicates to others that you like to take care of your appearance – which ties in with loving yourself. Of course, you need to find a style that suits your build and body type. Click here for a useful guide by The Idle man.
I would recommend that you decide on a series of outfit combinations (including shoes) that you really like and work well for a particular activity, occasion or day of the week. It just exudes confidence when you wear outfits that appear natural and effortless on you. Of course, be sure to invest in good quality clothing – even if its on the pricier side. It shows!
Dressing well includes wearing accessories that compliment your style. I would always recommend a great dress watch that is suitable for any occasion. As a suggestion, I highly recommend Vincero watches for their elegance and affordability:
Give yourself targets each day and aim to conquer most – if not all of them. The sense of achievement does wonders for your mental state and your confidence. Refer to my post below for enhancing your productivity;
At the end of your day you should reflect on your best achievements. The sense of fulfillment from achieving your daily targets tells you that you’re slowly, but surely conquering your projects. You gain so much confidence from accomplishments! Each step goes a long way.
Face your fears
Try not to think twice. If there’s something that makes you uncomfortable, then you’re best bet is to face it full on. If you’re in an awkward or unpleasant situation, count to 5 in your head and take action before you get to 5. This ensures that you’re not giving yourself time to back away and procrastinate. The more fears you conquer, the more you realise there is little to be scared of. Your confidence grows and grows.
Oh and a cold shower every morning is amazing! It just sets you up perfectly for your day, and if you can get through that then nothing will faze you and your confidence sky-rockets!
What you can and can’t control
Know this. There are some things you just can’t control! The weather, people’s reactions, bird crap. The things you can control, i.e. your mood, your work, etc – manage those to the best of your ability.
Those things you can’t control – don’t let them stress you out dude. Move on quickly, stay cool and your confidence remains solid. If you let external uncontrollable things get to you, then you end up affecting your own mental state.
Learn Learn Learn
You are a product of your environment. Think of the 3 closest people to you, and calculate a rough average of their income. That would probably be close to your income. In addition, your thoughts and lifestyle are highly likely to be aligned to your closest 3 people in your life. Inspect yourself, seek growth and seek inspiring people to be around. You can do this by having mentors, listening to podcasts, watching inspiring people on videos or reading a self development book. By learning something new daily, you’re cultivating a growth mindset and gaining clarity of thought.
Pretty soon you’ll be able to teach others and become a person of value. A fantastic way to develop inner confidence. Remember – the application of knowledge leads to better decisions.
One thing that I’ve been learning is effective digital marketing for generating sales and extra income. If you’re interested in expanding your skills and creating an online business, I encourage you to click here.
Above all, consistent good habits and application is the key to ensuring your confidence is sustainable.